I think as parents we can judge the degree of hovering required to keep a child in line. And looking ahead to the future, I already know how to position my mostly obedient children against the ones ready and willing to break the rules. I guess having four kids in five years has its perks. (Side note: Remind me to refer back to this post when I’m cursing my life.) And that scientific study about older children being more responsible holds true in our household. As for my two future hellions, there’s Peter (7) who sneaks beer from the refrigerator and tells me that he’s going to smoke cigarettes when he’s older. And then there’s my 9-year-old daughter who pushes every limit by dancing around provocatively while pretending to wear a thong and guzzles my glass of Sangria when my back is turned. That alone should keep me up at night. Yet I have more of a one-day-at-a-time mentality and don’t get hung up on the “what ifs.” Knowing I have at least one tattle teller in the bunch is enough to calm my nerves.
Need some preteen girl advice:-). Parents of other middle school daughters, do you allow
them to wear makeup??? I feel pretty confident with my position, but am wondering if I
am too old school.
(Gulp!) My girls aren’t even in middle school and have been experimenting with makeup since probably the 2nd grade. Now let me clarify that my daughters don’t wear it to school, but there have been times that we’ve ventured out into public without realizing that they resemble ladies of the night after a heavy handed eye makeup application. That's just a slight oversight on my part.
There were upwards of thirty responses to that FB post, with answers ranging from those moms who forbid makeup except on special occasions, to those that allow a little clear mascara and blush. And then there’s me, the silent outlier, thinking some of the moms need to lighten up a bit or face more trouble ahead. Didn’t we all know that girl with strict parents who was like a freed animal when out of their sight? By far the best advice comes from this mom, who wrote:
In general with parenting it's always good to go with your intuition on what you think is best...
and often that changes from child to child & with the years. No right or wrong answer
really; just what you believe to be best.
As for my daughters, I wouldn’t hesitate to let them wear light makeup in middle school and cover up a few zits whenever they erupt. What’s a girl who isn’t armed with a tube of concealer? I’d say she doesn’t exist.